Divorces happen more often than we would like to think, however, most people still learn about divorce from celebrities. Well, Justin Theroux and Jennifer Aniston just announced that they split amicably at the end of 2017. It appears they are trying to work out their differences privately and possibly through mediation or collaborative divorce. Interestingly, they kept their divorce plans under wraps for 8 weeks. If you are contemplating divorce, the following tips could help you keep your divorce amicable like Justin Theroux and Jennifer Aniston.
3 Positive Divorce Tips from Justin Theroux and Jennifer Aniston:
Preparation – Work out financial details early. Justin and Jennifer were likely working with their attorneys and accountants long before the public knew about their divorce. You should too. Before letting immediate family know you are divorcing, having your financial issues resolved will help you be confident in your choice. Knowing how you will divide the money can allow you to focus on other important things, like your emotions.
Adjust – Allow time for emotional dust to settle. Justin and Jennifer did not immediately discuss their divorce publicly and neither should you. Negatively discussing your divorce with others is not helpful in the long run. Divorce is a significant change. You will need time to process it. It may not hit you today or tomorrow, but the true emotions of your divorce will creep up on you. You might feel sad, elated, angry, or upset. A couples therapist or a divorce coach should help you understand your emotions.
Inform – Plan the best way to inform family and co-workers. Justin and Jennifer decided to wait 2 months to disclose their divorce. You, however, should tell your children after careful planning with your divorce attorney and family therapist. You can then tell others on a need to know basis and perhaps 8 weeks after you tell your family.
It is always sad when a marriage does not work out as you had hoped. It’s best to round up your financial professionals, marriage therapist, and your trusted attorney to work out the details to lessen the overall financial and emotional burden. You may lose friends, but you will gain better ones, the ones that support you through your divorce. There are ways to handle a divorce with grace and peacefulness, hopefully like Justin Theroux and Jennifer Aniston. Contact Us to learn more about your divorce options.
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Illinois divorce attorney Erin Birt is a skilled legal professional with over fourteen years of experience in divorce law and divorce settlement based practices. She serves clients in many DuPage County cities including Burr Ridge, Hinsdale, Oak Brook, Wheaton, Glen Ellyn, Naperville, Warrenville and Winfield.
Erin opened the Law Firm of Erin Birt, P.C. in 2010 to offer her clients alternatives to divorce litigation. She and her expert team continually develop creative outcomes with divorce mediation and family law mediation that work for all parties involved, particularly children.
Ms. Birt holds a J.D. from DePaul College of Law and is a member of the Collaborative Practice Professionals of Illinois, the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and the DuPage County Bar Association. She is a past board member and presenter for the Mediation Council of Illinois.